The Anxiety and Fear that is running in your head can take you over. Quiet your mind with these healing tips.
It has been broken down many times as False Evidence Appearing Real. Think back on the times recently that you were scared. How many of those fears became realities? Probably none right? In prehistoric times fear was useful when chasing a dinosaur, gave them the energy to run and climb trees if needed. Run from any dinosaurs lately? Well, other than the ones in your head. The first big item at hand is to learn to control the thoughts in your mind & not let your mind control you. The following steps below will help reprogram your mind & stop those thoughts. Remember, it won’t happen overnight…Babysteps!
The Loud Voices in Your Head
I bet you can’t remember the last time you just sat without a thought in your mind. If you are like me thoughts run in and out of your head, each one hoping to grab your attention. If one does it is like a downward spiral. That thought can take off in a million different directions. The what-ifs start to take over…what if I have a car accident, what if my car runs out of gas, what if I loose my mind. Most of these will never happen, but the movie begins to play in your head and you can see all of the bad things that you feel WILL happen. Learning to take things as they come is a necessity.
Creating a mantra of your very own can correct these thoughts. When the thought starts to go to work on your mind simply say “Stop”, “It’s not Real”, “Move On” – Whatever you want to signify that it is not wanted. This takes a little bit of practice, but it will begin to work like a charm.
Another exercise that I found helpful was to sit on the couch early in the morning before the day started & allow thoughts to pass through my head, if they seemed to stop I would picture my hand pushing them out of the way. This taught me to have a clear mind. Try this daily, great for relaxation too!
Magic of Journaling
“The act of putting pen to paper encourages pause for thought, this in turn makes us think more deeply about life, which helps us regain our equilibrium.” ~Norbet Platt
Have lots of thoughts running through your head everyday? Well of course you do, it’s stress, depression & anxiety, right? Getting rid of the negative self-talk is one of the biggest challenges. I remember a time that they dumped in my mind even faster than I could register. I could hardly have a normal thought because the negative ones were taking over my life.
One way I found to release some of those thoughts was to journal. I carried a journal with me all the time so that when I was overwhelmed with thoughts I could right them out. Really helped get them out of my mind and on to paper. Seemed like I could kind of work the problem out better and it didn’t seem so scarry if it was written on paper. It also gave me the chance to go back everyday and review what my scarry thoughts were days or weeks before. Then I could see a pattern that things really didn’t go as bad as I thought they would in my head. You know 98% of things we worry about never happen. One more time, repeat after me….98% NEVER happen!!!
Another couple of ideas to try are to go back and counteract those thoughts as if you are walking a friend through them. Distance yourself from your own thoughts. You can also keep a running list of your thoughts. Write them down every time you have one. In the beginning you will be writing non-stop. That will change soon. Like the little boy who picks on the little girl, he quits when it no longer agravates her. The thoughts will not have anywhere to root, so they start to move on.
If you were to open my purse today you would still find My Healing Journal, a Journal for my thoughts, and a task list to keep me on track. These are the tools that helped with my healing. I will continue to do them, insurance that I will never return to that dark place in my life. So your mission today is to find a journal to carry with you. Don’t forget your pen. It does not have to be anything fancy or expensive. Even a folded piece of paper would work. Y
Stop Researching your Health on Medical Websites
Have you had an ache or pain and looked it up on the internet? How many times did you have a horrible disease? Walked around for a week with a self diagnosis & then the pain was gone. During that week you searched the internet 1,000 times more to verify that you had that. One day I was convinced I had a leg blood clot, called my nurse friend and she would just giggle. Sound silly to someone outside your head, but inside – stand back it was full speed ahead. A year ago I had a twitch in my face, I checked to make sure I had disability insurance. I was sure it was a stroke or degenerative disease. Now, nothing was bad enough to send me to the ER. But it kept my mind going. If you are having serious symptoms, please check them out. We want everyone healthy and happy! My point is that I worried about every twitch, and aching muscle.
Have you noticed that the news does not have any happy news? Well maybe a dog story in the last 30 seconds. Don’t watch the news, or read about it. If you have to, maybe read the headlines on the internet, but resist the urge to open the horrible stories that grace the headlines everyday. You will relate to every story and carry the stress around with you. I have found that monitoring the movies I watch has helped a lot too. The last suspense movie I watched was the Butterfly Effect. I remember because I had a panic attack in the middle of it. I just choose not to put my body though that stress, because it still remembers how to react.
Have you found yourself not able to concentrate on the task at hand? Have you driven to work & don’t remember the ride? You are consumed in your own thoughts? I found than when doing the simplest tasks the thoughts would just love to invade my mind. I was always losing my keys, would put things in the “safe place” and would not be able to find them. It’s all because I was not focusing on the task at hand. Not because I was forgetful.
I began to notice when the thoughts would creep in. I would simply say to myself “Not now I am busy washing the dishes” or something to that effect. When putting my keys down I would say to myself “I put my keys on the table”. Funny how jut one sentence can burn in your mind of where you left something.
A great thing to practice is a time of day everyday where you can focus on the present. I started in my car. As I would drive to work I would be in the drive. Not hashing over my day or worried about what was ahead of me. Just enjoying the ride, surroundings and practicing my deep belly breathing. The more you practice your focus the more you will be able to command it.
One night my husband and I were talking about the people around us. We decided that we really only wanted to surround ourselves with people that made us feel good. Therefore, we came up with we only want “Good Garnish”. Think of a nice dinner, the parsley always finishes off the plate. Your garnish is going to be people in your life that compliment you, make you excel in life. Don’t get me wrong this has nothing to do with monetary or status reasons. It’s more of a spiritual basis. If people don’t make you happy & relaxed why surround yourself with them? If they are lazy or old before their time & that’s not where you want to be – find new “Garnish”. It’s as easy as that! When you are fighting to hatch you have to evaluate everything, this is a new birth process.
Who is your parsley?